Be patient with yourself – parenting is a learning experience

The pressure to be a perfect parent comes from many directions. It can be easy to think that you have to be an instant expert on everything to do with your baby, but each day of parenthood is an opportunity to learn and grow.  

On those days when you’re feeling critical of your parenting skills, here are a few tips to reassure you.  

What would you say to a friend in the same position? 

If your friend was having a rough day, and opened up about their feelings, would you be as critical? 

Probably not! On those days when you are doubting yourself, think about how you would reassure and support someone else. A good friend would lift the other up, offer solutions to the issue and give encouraging words. Be a good friend to yourself! 

Reflect on your journey 

Take time to think about all of the hard work you have put into parenting, and all that you and your child have achieved together.  

Whether it was nailing the bedtime routine, or doing something new that you found a little scary, these are all achievements and stepping stones on your journey, no matter how big or small. You may have found new ways to do things that suit you and your family, grown in confidence and developed a unique bond with your child. 

Try not to compare and despair 

Every single parenting journey is unique – some parents often find that they have a completely different experience with each of their own children!  

You may find yourself comparing your parenting with other people you know, and with parents that you follow online. They might appear to be having a smoother ride, or you may worry that other people’s children are hitting big milestones before your own. 

Every child is different, and so is every parent.  

It’s important to remember that what people post online and are excited to tell you about are their highlights – they will be having stressful moments and worries too, just like you.