Finding your parenting tribe

Parenting in recent years may well be the most challenging it has ever been. Between the constant torrent of advice on social media and the demands of balancing work, home and personal life, it’s no wonder that many parents can feel at a loss. Add to this the isolation felt from years of Covid restrictions and the closure of many support services, and it’s no wonder parents can end up feeling lost and overwhelmed.   

Here’s where technology can help. Digital communities are fast becoming the go-to place to navigate a whole host of subjects and parenting is one of them.  

There’s no real replacement for sitting opposite someone with a cup of tea but digital communities can provide something unique and, we think, special.    

They are easy to find, especially on social media sites such as Facebook, and are very accessible, as you can dip in and out to suit you. There are communities dedicated to specific topics and challenges – often, these will offer far more helpful advice than you might get at your average play group.  

At My First Five Years, we have set up a digital community on Facebook (Parent support group – The My First Five Years Community | Facebook) where parents can get advice from childhood experts on a wide range of topics, as well as come together to discuss parenting openly and honestly in a safe and welcoming space. We want to connect people in a positive way and give reassurance, where required.  

We also share stories of realistic parenting, so that parents can see beyond the glossy images on social media. This is another major benefit of digital communities – you can meet like-minded people who want to support each other and share their experiences, and aren’t just trying to gain followers.      

The joy can be taken away from parenting through ‘comparanoia’ – the constant comparisons that we can end up making as parents, about both ourselves and our children. When you see that a friend’s child has started walking when your own little one is yet to move, it can be hard not to compare. But every child is unique. What we don’t always realise is that our children will be constantly developing in so many different areas, at their own pace.  

A great community helps to build you up, not break you down 

We are, by our very nature, social beings and thrive in the company of others. Finding your parenting tribe is easier said than done. But the good news is that digital communities are becoming more prevalent and easier to join than ever.  

You will know when you have found your community because you will feel safe and supported, and it will give you a place to be authentic and provide you with sense of belonging. So, when you find anybody or anywhere, digital or otherwise, that will allow you to share, be real, learn and find acceptance, then that is your community. And we believe that this is something that everyone deserves to have!